At this time of year, almost anywhere you may go, you can see holiday lights. Sparkling lights adorn the evergreen tree in the mall parking lot, as well as decorating doorways and front lawns in your neighborhood. Personally, I’m partial to the blue lights on our Palm tree in front of our house.
Lights also play a major role in the Jewish celebration of Chanukah, the winter festival of lights. In Japan, the celebration of Christmas is not necessarily for religious reasons, nor is it much of a commercial holiday. However, their outside Christmas light displays are amazing.
But lights are not just illuminating the outdoors. Two weeks ago, I attended a remembrance service sponsored by the local hospice. Each of us that gathered there had lost a loved one. Some people had lost someone as far back as twenty years while some as recent as a few days before.
Inside the church four candles were lit- one represented grief, the second courage, the third one for our memories, and the fourth for our love. One of the hospice staff lit his individual candle, while saying the names of the people he was honoring and a fond memory about them. He then passed the light to the next person and we each in turn did the same. I’m not going to lie, it was difficult, yet very cathartic.
Inside my home, I lit candles the past 4 Sundays on our advent wreath. These lights remind me that a baby was born long ago to be with us, to save us, to stay with us. Celebrating that miraculous birthday gives me strength and hope through each aspect of my life.
Our own birthdays are another occasion with candlelight. My mom’s fell on December 15. She loved éclairs more than cake. I remember the last birthday we celebrated. She was in a nursing home for physical rehab after her first hospital stay. She finally had her appetite and I wanted to bring her an éclair.
It sounds easy enough. However, around here, eclairs are not all made the same. Some only have a fluffy, frosting cream instead of the yummy custard we had up north. Anyway… I finally had found a bakery. My daughter and I brought it to her, along with a little battery operated candle that she could make a wish on. We sang to her, and kept the candle going the rest of the night. Little did I know, she would be gone in 4 weeks to the day of that birthday.
Last year, I was too depressed to celebrate her birthday. But this year, I bought an éclair, lit a candle, and we celebrated my mom.
Glimmering lights and candles are used for remembrances and celebrations. In that sense, I feel that a person’s love for us can also be a light in our life. When someone passes away, their light may flicker, but it is never really snuffed out. The source of the light is just a bit further away, and our loving memories keep the flame burning.
We are now about to usher in 2017. Many countries celebrate the new year with fireworks, firecrackers, and bells ringing. While I was growing up, my mother insisted that I always be home with her on New Year’s Eve. She believed that if the whole family was together at that time, there would be good fortune in the new year. When I married, and moved further away, I would call her right after the ball dropped in Times Square and wish her happy new year in Japanese – “Akemashite Omedetou Gozaimasu”. (One of the few Japanese phrases I know). I did this every year until she passed away. I so miss that. (I also miss the time when I could stay awake past midnight.)
In THE LAST CHERRY BLOSSOM(TLCB), one of the featured holidays is the New Year celebration(Oshogatsu). Yuriko’s Papa settled his business finances for the year, they cleaned the house, New Year decorations were put up, and Yuriko helped her relatives prepare their special food for the New Year celebration which lasted from December 31st through January 3rd.
I feel that the sentiment from this paragraph of Yuriko’s celebration in TLCB echoes what I hope 2017 will bring:
I took Papa’s hand as the temple bell began to strike. It rang out 108 times. Each toll of the bell was intended to symbolize the release of a sin or bad habit, giving a fresh start to the New Year. But with each bong I sat wishing, “Peace, peace, peace…”
I wish you a peaceful New Year filled with much joy and light with your loved ones!
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